In the early throes of love, keeping your hands off each other can be tough. However, the passion can fade over time, and it’s easy to settle into a routine.
No matter how long you’ve been together, even the best relationships can benefit from the element of surprise from time to time. Sexual surprises are a great way to spice up your love life, with these sex tips guaranteed to put a smile on your partner’s face.
From romantic moments to kinkier sex moves, we’ve got the best ideas to keep things fresh.
Are surprises good for relationships?
It’s no secret that sometimes relationships can get stuck in a rut.
Sex is an important part of a relationship, even if it’s not the be-all and end-all. Sexual surprises are the perfect way to shake things up.
Long-term couples especially may find their sex life starts to rely on the same moves and routines. When life gets hectic, it gets harder to try different sex positions or make an effort romantically. Even early on in dating, you might feel too self-conscious to try something new.
A sexy surprise adds variety to your sex life and shows your significant other you think of them – which may be the greatest turn-on.
How can I surprise my partner romantically?
The key to the element of surprise in romantic relationships is not taking things too seriously. Keep it light and playful to get your sex drive roaring – this shouldn’t feel like homework!
While some of the best sexual surprises go on in the bedroom, these ideas will help you start the foreplay anytime, anywhere.
1. Get dressed up
Add a steamy twist to your next visit by surprising your partner with a new outfit (or lack of one). A trench coat, sexy lingerie, and high heels are a classic for a reason – put whatever spin on it is comfortable for you.
Not your partner’s thing? Try and open up the conversation about what your partner would like to see you in — we’re guessing that less is always more!
2. Location, location, location
Home may be where the heart is, but the bedroom doesn’t need to be the only place where you can get busy with your partner. Keep your love life fresh by changing places!
This could involve your car or the great outdoors but make sure it’s a private spot! Or if this feels a bit risky, try a weekend away at a hotel or start with a different part of your own place.
Why not move from bed to sofa or even the floor? Shower sex can be another great sexual surprise that will leave you feeling anything but clean. Surprise your partner as they prepare in the morning, and they’ll think about you all day.
3. Keep in touch
The world’s more connected than ever – use it to your advantage.
Text your partner unexpectedly with your biggest turn-ons, from the positions you’d like to try to the kinks you haven’t dared to share. This is a great way to discuss what you want to try! Are you masturbating while apart? Let them know.
You can even start role-playing. Just text your significant other as if you’re their celebrity crush and let the conversation flow. Tired of texting? A sexy picture or video could be the surprise your partner’s been dreaming of.
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How to surprise your partner in bed
Foreplay is fun but will get only get you so far. Don’t be a tease. These sexual surprises will take things to the next level in bed.
Try new sex moves, toys, or dirty talk to turn good sex into great sex.
1. Sex toys
Sex toys open up a whole new world of surprises.
From handcuffs and blindfolds to vibrators, cock rings, and more, there’s a toy for every comfort level. Go ahead, or surprise your significant other with an erotic shopping trip and choose the toys together to ensure you’re both happy. Don’t forget some new lingerie to go with them!
2. Different positions
It’s easy to get too reliant on the old favorites. Don’t overthink things or feel self-conscious – new sex moves can be initiated as you go.
Your partner will be driven wild if you take control. Maybe you want to be put in the doggy style, or you saw something in porn that you want to try — vocalize these to your partner to ensure they’re on board!
Certain sex positions may need more prep, like talking it through or having extra lube ready. In that case, make the discussion a surprise!
3. Get sensual
Our sex lives often focus on the visual. Surprise your significant other by making the most of all their senses with these surprise sex ideas.
Blindfold them and use feathers, massage oil, whipped cream, or melted chocolate to activate their touch sensations. Whisper sweet nothings or dirty talk, and try scented candles. Drive their taste buds wild with their favorite treats and make yourself the cherry on top.
4. Morning sex
Got in the habit of only getting steamy when you’re going to bed? Shake things up with more morning sex. Forget about bad breath, bedhead hair, or how tired you look: that’ll be the last thing on your partner’s mind. Even just oral sex can be the perfect way to start the day.
Don’t be limited to morning and night – take any opportunity to surprise your partner. Both working from home? Try breaking up the day with a surprise quickie or an afternoon blow job.
5. Roleplay
The perfect way to surprise your significant other with new outfits, sex ideas, or moves. Play around with uniforms, accents, wigs, and other novelties to get things going.
Role play is a great chance to step out of your comfort zone and try new things like dirty talk or certain kinks. For the ultimate sexual surprise, get in character when your partner least expects it!
